|This is a sausage nativity scene|
that someone made. I think it looks
Christmas is quickly approaching and the kids have been saving their allowances to buy gifts for us (we told them not to worry about buying each other something). We were going to put a limit on it, like $5, so they don’t spend all the money they’ve saved. But this past weekend the boys decided they would rather make something for us instead of buying.
George and I are over the moon about this because we would absolutely LOVE a homemade gift.
But we have a nagging feeling that they made this decision more so they can spend their money on themselves as opposed to thinking of others (they love Dollar store junk toys). This matters to us because we are trying to teach them the value of money, buying gifts for others etc.
Another reason we find their motives suspect is because of the amount of time and energy they’ve spent making the gifts so far. In other words, very little. And the quality leaves a lot to be desired.
This led us to think about a highly controversial article published earlier this year that talked about why “Chinese mothers are superior”. The article talked about a lot of things, but what stands out in our memory is an instance when her child drew her a birthday card but the mother thought she didn’t put enough effort into it so she made them re-do it.
So our dilemma is this: If we think the boys are not putting enough effort into their present, do we tell them to do it again?
If we do, will that risk stifling their creativity?
How involved do we get with the helping?
At what age should kids stop making gifts and start buying gifts?
How much should they spend?
We certainly don’t believe that buying a gift is the right solution. The last thing we are is materialistic. But we’re not sure where to go with this!
Any advice you could give would be greatly appreciated.